One of my friends recently had her ears pierced, again, for like the fourth or fifth time, on each ear. Maybe I’m exaggerating, which would not surprise me. It was awhile ago that she got her piercings so my memory is a little fuzzy on all of the precise details. What I do remember is thinking how strange it was that I only had my standard piercings. What’s a standard piercing? In my limited view of piercings, the standard piercings…
I literally raised my hand and put my palm out towards his face and said “I seriously cannot do this,” and I walked away while asking my wife to take over. She kindly went and found the repairman while I went and had a cigarette. I thought I was pretty clear on the whole male privilege thing. I mean I have been dressing as me for about the last fifteen to twenty years. I have experienced people. I have experienced…
This is what I wore to a local LGBT+ event. I live near Visalia, Ca and our main resource center is The Source. For the past few years they have been doing a fundraising event called Over the Edge. People pledge to make so much money in donations and if they meet their goal, then they repel off the highest structure in the city. I personally do not want to repel off the building, no matter what, so I just…
My friend has an amazing filter on her camera, it removed about 20 years!! I had a fascinating set of interactions with some friends recently. One of them was with three different teachers I worked with for a few years, the second one was with a college professor who I work with in helping to teach teachers, and the third was one of my employers. While they will certainly recognize themselves in this post, I will change their names. My…
The photo on the left is from one year ago. The photo on the right is from today. This is to show what 7 months of facial electrolysis has done for me. I don’t have makeup on in either photo, well except for my obvious pink lipstick on the right. Why am I appearing so bare?? This is an advertisement for Dana Elise Solutions in Beverly Hills. Well, it is for sure going to come off like a commercial, however,…
Do you know what gatekeeping is? Here is an acceptable definition: the activity of controlling, and usually limiting, general access to something. How exactly does that apply to trans folk? Normally it is interpreted as – you cannot do this thing, take hormones or have surgeries, until you have met the following predefined characteristics. Those characteristics are outlined within WPATH’s(World Professional Association for Transgender Health) SOC (standards of care.) The SOC have never been an issue for me until recently.…
One of the easiest things in this process of legally changing my name and my gender was getting this driver’s license. You may recall that I was quite nervous about the process. In the end, it was super easy and I was in and out of the DMV in about 20 minutes. Yes I did have an appointment, and I highly recommend making one if you are ever in a need to visit that lovely place. The super surprising thing…