I once had an old friend accuse me of ruining her cherished childhood memories of her time on the swim team. Her evidence? I told her that our team’s head coach, Andy King, had groomed and sexually assaulted my sister. I was rather shocked when my friend got mad at me, but not at the coach. Why was she mad at me? What had I done? At the time that my sister was being assaulted, it was actually well known…
Do you know how large a bile duct is? I didn’t. But now I do. It is about 2-4 mm. Which isn’t very large. It is so strange to ponder if most of my readership understands the metric system. Most of the world knows metric better than imperial measurements, but most of my readers are from the US where I wonder if they really know the different between 2 mm and 1/4 inch, but I digress. Let’s just say that…
When I first started seeing my therapist I told her that I didn’t have any gender dysphoria. It didn’t take me very long to follow that up with, so by the way, what exactly is gender dysphoria? She explained it simply as a disconnect between one’s birth gender and one’s perceived or mental gender. I again repeated, yeah, no, I don’t have that and don’t think I have ever felt that way. I think a good question that I could…
The first picture was 3 months of estrogen, the second is 4 years and 3 months of estrogen. I really like estrogen, hehe!A good friend recently remarked that the closer I am getting to my surgery date, the worse things seem to be for me. For many who have known me for a long time it may very well appear that way though in reality a few different things are going on. First off, I am willing to be more…
When I tell people that at times I have a super difficult time with my dysphoria and being out in public they often scoff at me. They tell me that I pass perfectly well and that there is absolutely no reasons whatsoever that I should not feel totally and fully comfortable at all times in all settings with anybody. Wow, that is a tall order. To pass at all times in all settings anywhere? How about naked? Okay, well then…
Women have hourglass figures. Sounds pretty simple huh? Maybe, but that simple statement causes such harm that I feel the need to expand upon it. Harm you say? Yes harm. How about we attack it from my perspective first, that of a trans woman. The information floating around out there about transgender women and hips basically says that trans women will never acquire hips. Sorry but no, it’s not happening. Why? Well the no trans women will ever naturally get…
Why are allies so important? Because most days I don’t feel like killing myself, but some days I do. Work Update……….. The teacher I spoke of on Tuesday came by this morning. She politely asked to speak to me and began apologizing almost immediately upon entering my room. I thanked her and apologized as well. She was quite concerned and confused so I took a deep breath and explained the bigger picture, all of it, down to the lounge conversation…
