I once had an old friend accuse me of ruining her cherished childhood memories of her time on the swim team. Her evidence? I told her that our team’s head coach, Andy King, had groomed and sexually assaulted my sister. I was rather shocked when my friend got mad at me, but not at the coach. Why was she mad at me? What had I done? At the time that my sister was being assaulted, it was actually well known…
I am going to try this post and see how it goes. My mission is to try and retell the events, without making too much of a judgement. That is going to be hard, as I am clearly judging this person, and what happened, however I’d really prefer for it to be a learning experience instead of a ripping experience. I honestly don’t know if that is going to be possible. So then why try? Well, I am an educator…
This is what I wore to a local LGBT+ event. I live near Visalia, Ca and our main resource center is The Source. For the past few years they have been doing a fundraising event called Over the Edge. People pledge to make so much money in donations and if they meet their goal, then they repel off the highest structure in the city. I personally do not want to repel off the building, no matter what, so I just…
My friend has an amazing filter on her camera, it removed about 20 years!! I had a fascinating set of interactions with some friends recently. One of them was with three different teachers I worked with for a few years, the second one was with a college professor who I work with in helping to teach teachers, and the third was one of my employers. While they will certainly recognize themselves in this post, I will change their names. My…
I don’t remember when my friend Dana first mentioned to me the idea of she and I doing a podcast, though I do know what my response was, sure! I didn’t really know a whole lot about podcasts, as I don’t generally listen to many of them. I understood the basics, it is like a radio show, and I have listened to plenty of talk radio in the past. What I didn’t know, was, how exactly does one produce a…
One of the most challenging questions I have had to deal with is trying to determine if I have lost friends because of my transition. I am a member of a chat board called crossdressers.com and on that board people are very fond of saying that when you transition you need to be prepared to lose everyone and everything and thus they do not recommend transitioning unless it is a life and death situation. That sentiment scared me off from…
Regret is a very difficult thing to deal with, and there is great concern out there about what will happen if a transgender person may regret their decision to transition. I first encountered this worry when I informed my friends and family that I had switched my hormones. I was actually quite surprised at how many people said to me – wow, okay, are you sure that is what you want to do? And very often that was followed up…
