When I tell people that at times I have a super difficult time with my dysphoria and being out in public they often scoff at me. They tell me that I pass perfectly well and that there is absolutely no reasons whatsoever that I should not feel totally and fully comfortable at all times in all settings with anybody. Wow, that is a tall order. To pass at all times in all settings anywhere? How about naked? Okay, well then…
Women have hourglass figures. Sounds pretty simple huh? Maybe, but that simple statement causes such harm that I feel the need to expand upon it. Harm you say? Yes harm. How about we attack it from my perspective first, that of a trans woman. The information floating around out there about transgender women and hips basically says that trans women will never acquire hips. Sorry but no, it’s not happening. Why? Well the no trans women will ever naturally get…
Why are allies so important? Because most days I don’t feel like killing myself, but some days I do. Work Update……….. The teacher I spoke of on Tuesday came by this morning. She politely asked to speak to me and began apologizing almost immediately upon entering my room. I thanked her and apologized as well. She was quite concerned and confused so I took a deep breath and explained the bigger picture, all of it, down to the lounge conversation…
(This was initially published on my FB page, but I have chosen to republish it here. This is really a two parter, with this being the first portion. Enjoy.) I said to a friend at work today that shockingly I would be willing to wear a badge stating I was vaccinated if it meant I could stop wearing a mask. This was overheard by another teacher. She disagreed and said masks should just be gone, and no vaccine should be…
In January, almost a year ago, I met with Dr. Satterwhite in SF. Don’t know who he is? Well he is going to perform my gender surgery. Gender surgery? Yes. It has gone by a variety of acronyms, none of which are without issue. Suffice it to say this is THE surgery. Yup, that one. THE one, lol. Still confused, well then maybe that’s for the best and we will leave it at that. The date that I chose for…
The other day I received the following email: Followed you for a very long time and proud of your accomplishments, but thinking of taking you off the list of places I go often. I know you’re busy-you lead a full life for sure-and it shows. Rare new bits and pieces, and not updated to often like it once was. So,time to move on. Thanks for the ride. My response at first was that I cried. After a bit I got…
I was just reading someone’s opinion on a website about MtF transgender voice therapy and something struck me, how critical are you of gender “tells?” The specific thought someone posted was in saying that while they have heard many transgender women speak they are still aware that the person was born AMAB. I am not wanting specifics on where that opinion was posted as I am not wanting to trash that person, that is not the point. What I am…







