Apparently that is the question. Confused? Possibly. Well, the other day on Insta I received the following message: When you pose in a car, may I ask a favor? Please shed the sunglasses for the time to take a selfie. As a lesbian, I want to see your whole face. I went back through my Insta feed and noticed that there are probably about 35 or so pictures with me with sunglasses on and about the same with them off. …
One of the most challenging questions I have had to deal with is trying to determine if I have lost friends because of my transition. I am a member of a chat board called crossdressers.com and on that board people are very fond of saying that when you transition you need to be prepared to lose everyone and everything and thus they do not recommend transitioning unless it is a life and death situation. That sentiment scared me off from…
Do you know what gatekeeping is? Here is an acceptable definition: the activity of controlling, and usually limiting, general access to something. How exactly does that apply to trans folk? Normally it is interpreted as – you cannot do this thing, take hormones or have surgeries, until you have met the following predefined characteristics. Those characteristics are outlined within WPATH’s(World Professional Association for Transgender Health) SOC (standards of care.) The SOC have never been an issue for me until recently.…
One of the easiest things in this process of legally changing my name and my gender was getting this driver’s license. You may recall that I was quite nervous about the process. In the end, it was super easy and I was in and out of the DMV in about 20 minutes. Yes I did have an appointment, and I highly recommend making one if you are ever in a need to visit that lovely place. The super surprising thing…
I really had no idea. If I would have known, I would have gone this route long ago. How different life would be is unimaginable. It’s sad, actually. I know, I shouldn’t feel bad for things that have happened, for it was only those things that brought me to the path I’m on. Who knows what would have been now, if that had not ever been then. At least it happened eventually. Oh, I’m sorry, I’m waxing on dramatically without…
Standing next to my truck I realized what had occurred, I just locked my keys inside. It was truly an unreal moment and I stood there for a bit absolutely dumbstruck. This couldn’t really be happening could it? Yes, yes it could, and it was. I tried pushing some random numbers into my key-less entry system as I never actually bothered to memorize the actual combination. I knew it was a five digit code, but that was about it. Proving…
It was with a weird disconnected calm that I heard my wife describe the horror I had been dreading since 2010. A student came up to her and described how all of the students were talking about that I had been discovered online. They apparently found my Facebook page which led them here to this little ol blog of mine. At one point in my life this would have been awesomely devastating for the two of us, at least mentally. …
