About

Hi there.  My name is Nadine.  I am a married, 40 something male, that enjoys cross dressing.  Thank you for visiting my blog.  The intentions of this blog is to share what I do and try to impart my itty-bitty bits of knowledge about fashion.. 

There are so many different opinions about cross dressing. Even within those that share my desires,we often vary greatly in our own views about it.  We tend to be on the fringes of society and we marginalize ourselves further by creating subdivisions within our own group. I think we all need to be more tolerant and open with what we do.

With that being said, you may notice that  I don't really show my face.  Being as things are the way that they are, I currently can't risk pictures that may compromise my identity.  It has the unfortunate possibility of jeopardizing my employment.  I don't think there is anything that my employers could do really, but if my clientele were to be aware of my habits, that could potentially be an issue.  So that's what is up with that.

My personal variation of cross dressing:

I enjoy dressing, completely, head to toe, wig and all as a woman, and then going out in public.  I also dress as a woman and just say in.  During the times that I am dressed as a guy, I have both my ears pierced.  I also occasionally will have my fingernails painted.  I wear women's underwear exclusively.  My eyebrows are waxed, but not too extremely; I kind of like larger brows on my face as they are not that dark.  My cross dressing is also a part of my sexuality, but none of that will be discussed at this forum except to say that I am completely heterosexual.  I really like women, especially my wife.

Now one thing that seems to differ from me and some other cross dressers.  I like to dress as a woman, but I also like to dress as a man.  I enjoy many things while dressed as a man.   I like working in my woodshop, splitting wood, working in the yard, going duck hunting, water skiing, backpacking, shotgun shooting, and a whole slew of other things.

Why I do it:

Honestly I have no idea.  I do not think a woman is trapped inside me.  I don't think that I should have been physically created as a girl.  I have no idea if my brain chemistry is tweaked so that I feel more girl than boy.  I really don't know why.  Early in my life, my sister and I used to dress up just in playing, and I really enjoyed it.  I also used to have to shave my body for swimming, and I really enjoyed it. My first girlfriend painted my fingernails along with her really cute friend helping, and I really enjoyed it.  There are other various little things.  Does that help explain why I like it now?  I'm still not really sure why I liked it then, but I know that I did.  I know that I like to do it and it does not infringe upon anyone else.  If you don't like it, don't do it.

I enjoy all comments, but if you aren't polite, I won't post it.   

Update 12/2013
Wow it has been quite some time since I have updated this page.  I recently reread it and realized that I was not showing my face when I wrote this About page but now I am.  Obviously I changed my mind about not showing my face.  Somewhere along the way I decided that showing my face is not nearly the risk that I once thought it was.

I am still concerned about my employment, but I think I am a little more able to handle any concerns that my employer may have and defend myself in court, if need be.  I don't really think that it would ever come to that but I think I am strong enough now to handle it if I needed to.

So yeah, for what it is worth, now you get to see my face.

16 comments:

  1. Nadine,
    I just came upon your blog today so I have not had a chance to read much more than this post and the post by your wife.
    We have a lot in common. I am a bit older than you but deeply in love with my wife and also continually concerned about the outside world finding out about me.
    I dress when I can but it is a default option as much as anything. I like my regular guy life.
    I will check out some of your older posts and will comment from time to time.
    Best Regards,
    Pat.

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  2. No idea?, news flash your having a fetish, not all fetish are creating equel some are dangerous, some are against the law, cross dressing is not one of them unless you use it to commit murder, rob bank or anything of that short. Now far as i'm concerned fetish are complex thing and take on various shapes and forms and manifest on various ages. They can range form high sex drive to none, but still be there. Now that is not something to worry about unless its hinder all other day life functioning, so don't worry.

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    Christjan

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    1. Thanks for your thoughts. I appreciate hearing from my readers.

      As far as giving me a news flash - that I am having a fetish, I feel that idea is far too limited to cover the scope and spectrum of what is occurring with my cross dressing and most others as well. So I disagree with your assessment of the situation.

      Thanks!

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    2. i agree with you Nadine in that fetishes are somewhat different as that would refer to the fem clothing as a need to be sexual. those of us who are transgendered really feel that somehow we "should be dressed in fem" because it feels correct and not because we need to preform sexually.

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    3. Totally. I just read an article last night that struck a chord with me:

      http://www.huffingtonpost.com/scout-phd/a-male-b-female-c-both-d-neither_b_2887462.html

      I'm not sure how to make that a clickable link, but if anyone can manage to figure it out, it is worth a read.

      Thanks!

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  3. Very well written and I think a lot of Crossdressers feel the same.

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    1. Thank you very much Susan. I appreciate you stopping by. If you can't tell, my page on cleavage was inspired by yours. I don't think I ever mentioned that, so thanks!

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  4. Nice blog Nadine.. Open, honest, well written and great that you're prepared to share this all with everyone. And I do hope your wife's leg continues to mend well... :) Katey x

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    1. Thanks Katie. I appreciate your complements. And thanks for the well wishes for my wife. Yes her leg is continuing to mend well, but we are both so surprised at just how long the healing process is for this sort of injury. Wow!

      Thanks again!

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  5. Very Nice blog Nadine :D I haven't searched over much of it but I will return in the future ;)

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    1. Thanks Joanne. I hope you enjoy my little space here. I hope to hear from you in the future. :)

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  6. Hi Nadine,

    What a wonderful blog. I just stumbled upon it from a friends to another etc. to this. Thanks for sharing and I will have to come back and check from time to time. I looked for a place to email in private but don't see this as an option.

    I am a huge fan of WHBM myself and I love your choices.

    Great job and you look beautiful,

    Sandy

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    1. Hi Sandy-

      Thanks for stopping by and writing to me! My personal email is nadinespirit@gmail.com

      Thanks for the complements and I hope you do come back! :)

      Nadine

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  7. Nadine,

    For 'reasons', how about this? It may be as simple as you love expressing yourself through your clothing and unfortunately, men's choices are much more limited and restricted.

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  8. you make a very pretty woman :)
    perhaps you are genderfluid? i have a friend who is genderfluid (physically male), he says that all it means to him is that he's a male who likes wearing dresses and makeup once in a while. Most days he feels like a guy, but sometimes he just feels like a girl. Or even in-between.

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    1. Thanks Maya!

      Yeah, I have pondered the idea of gender fluid before. And it seems to make some sense to me, that some days I feel more fem and others I feel more male. For me though, I really attempt to aim for a sweet spot, which is somewhere in the middle. Which is really how I see my own gender, as defined as somewhere in the middle. It really does not shift from day to day, it is rather constant.

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