One of the easiest things in this process of legally changing my name and my gender was getting this driver's license. You may recall that I was quite nervous about the process. In the end, it was super easy and I was in and out of the DMV in about 20 minutes. Yes I did have an appointment, and I highly recommend making one if you are ever in a need to visit that lovely place.
The super surprising thing about the entire process was that exactly one week later, I received this lovely little piece of plastic in the mail! Woo-Hoo! I finally failed sex! Get it? I've got the F next to the word sex on there. Yeah, I know, I'm fricken hilarious! I did mention that I am a math teacher right? Anywho..... the DMV worker said that I would receive my new license in about 3-4 weeks, and they killed that time expectation! Lovely! Simply lovely! Thank you Cali DMV!
Oh, and I also think that my picture is pretty good as well. I mean it does look as though my eyes are half closed, but heck I still look pretty darn cute, so I'll take it! I also like that they were not so closely zoomed in on my face that you can actually see a bit of the dress I have on. Woo-Hoo! Now I'm just hoping that when I go in for the Real ID that they don't make me take another photo. Crossing my fingers!
So now, onto the massive pain in the ass, my birth certificate. Yup this little lovely came only one day after I received my driver's license. When did I first send away for it? July 11th. Yeah, so that made it about 3 months to complete this mission. It shouldn't have taken that long, but it did due to an error that I made. Yup, I was kicking myself!
Initially I sent it off, like I said, on July 11th. It was returned to me about 5 weeks later, and I was thrilled, until I opened the letter and discovered that I had made an error. It said something along the lines of - mother's name at birth, and what they meant was mother's maiden name. That would have made it clear. Like a fool, I did what it said instead of what it meant. They returned it, with my mother's name corrected and told me to resubmit it.
I mailed it back the very next day with the corrections having been made. Five weeks later, I had nothing. Sometime in the sixth or seventh week, I noticed that they cashed my check. Woo Hoo I thought, they will be sending it to me any day now. Alas, there was no such luck. It took another two to three weeks for them to actually send it to me.
For me, the absolute weirdest part was that when I received both of these items, one day apart, I was not nearly as thrilled as I thought I would be. I was happy, but not absolutely ecstatic, over the moon happy. I actually had to tell myself to be happier. What was the issue? I was having my period. Yeah, I know, not possible right? Well, I did have a pretty major adjustment in my hormone levels at the start of last week. My doc doubled my spiro dosage. My T was still too high. I think that hormone adjustment put me into a bit of a funk.
Whatevs, right? Well for me it was as within a week I was absolutely thrilled to have gotten these two giant checkmarks off my list. The driver's license was huge actually because that was what I was waiting for to begin pretty much all of the rest of the changes. Now, I'm making a list and checking it twice for every last little instance of my previous name. It will probably take quite some time for me to find every occurrence, but I will get there eventually.
In the end, if this is a course you are taking, make sure you do not make ANY errors on the birth certificate application. That's my one piece of advice, oh and be prepared at the DMV and be willing to explain the process to whomever is attempting to help you as you may very well have to explain to them how to do it. Yeah, that was funny for sure!
Oh, and another super cool thing, I actually composed this blog yesterday and when I got home what was in the mail? My new credit and bank cards! Yay!! Super YAY!!! That means that pretty much everything in my wallet is now with my correct name! That is super FUCKING AMAZE BALLS!!! Oh, geez, oops, did I just let an F bomb fly? YES! Yes I did! I even yelled it right? Yup, that happened!
Okie dokie! Love you!
Work hard to get yourself what you need!
Care about the other's in your life. But take care of yourself so that you are able to care for others.