Monday, October 24, 2016

Medical Community Ignorance

Some here may remember in a past post I wrote about being prescribed some medication for my enlarged prostate.  Specifically that drug is called Tamsulosin.  While I have the drug sitting at home, I have yet to try it.  I am a bit concerned about the common side effect of dizziness that people are reporting.  I am an avid duck hunter and I don't need any dizziness while out shooting a shotgun standing in a muddy marsh!!  Ha!

Anywho.... I went to my GP today to follow up on all of my urologist appointments.  I was discussing this drug with the nurse practitioner that I see.  (Which by the way I find a bit odd.  I go to see a doctor and instead they have me see an advanced nurse. Whatever! At least I get to see someone huh?)  I mentioned to her my concerns about taking this drug and I asked about a different one, Finasteride.

I've done a bit of research and found that Finasteride can help with male pattern balding as well as an enlarged prostate.  I found those two uses to be interesting to me for sure!  And low and behold, what did I also see, that it is an anti-androgyne!!  Occasionally it can have the side effect of breast growth!  Umm..... did someone say breast growth!  Yes, breast growth!

While reviewing the medication I suggested the nurse mentioned to me that an occasional side effect is "tissue growth in the chest area."  I told her straight up that I am transgender and some breast growth would not be unwanted.  She finished investigating Finasteride and went and spoke with the actual doctor in the office and came back to my room.  Her recommendation was to stick with the first drug and if I had problems with it, they will then later prescribe Finasteride.

She then said, well in regards to your transgender status.... And I was thinking, yes, what will your question be?  Are you going to ask me if I am interested in transitioning?  Are you going to ask if I am "just" a cross dresser?  Are you going to ask if I really want Finasteride to help me to become more feminine in my appearance?  What, what are you going to ask?

What did she ask?  "Are you monogamous?"  Am I monogamous?  Am I fucking monogamous?  She must have seen the look of disbelief on my face and I was not prepared to give her an appropriate answer, as in "oh by the way, one's gender status says nothing about their sexual habits." So she says, well we just need to make sure that we handle your health needs appropriately if you are not being monogamous, as well as your wife's needs.  So.... I simply told her, yes I am monogamous.

The appointment finished, I got my flu shot, and I was done for the day.  Upon leaving and having some reflection time, I think it is appropriate that the very next time I am there, I need to inform her to be a bit more sensitive and informed of transgender issues and that she needs to stop connecting one's gender status to their sex life.  I really should have told her this when she asked me the question, but honestly her question came out of left field and took me quite by surprise.  I have not been so open about my gender status and I am just learning what people's responses could be.  So now I know.  Soon she will know too!!

Love you!

Love yourself!

Educate the public!!

Oh, I totally forgot!!!  I had my latest post published over at Already Pretty.  You should go check it out as I really like the article I wrote!!

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Tuesday, October 18, 2016

Skinny Jeans & Cheetah Heels

Shoes - Kelly and Katie - Similar

This was a funny evening outfit for me.  We had a really full weekend with all sorts of things to get done, but I wanted to go out to dinner.  I spent the morning working furiously on all of my various jobs around the house and decided to get ready around two in the afternoon.  After I got out of the shower I asked Jules what she was thinking about wearing, she said a dress, and asked me what I was wearing.  This is the funny part, normally it is me in a dress and Jules in jeans, but this time I told Jules that I wanted to wear jeans.  Funny.  Hmm... well okay, maybe it does not come across as funny online as it was to me in real life.  Ha!

Anywho.... Jules asked what was up with me wanting to wear jeans.  I told her that it had to do with where we were going to go for dinner, Cattlemens.  It is a local steakhouse and I had gotten a coupon to use during this month as it is my birthday month.  Cattlemens happens to be kind of a down-home restaurant with good ole boys hanging out at the bar in their jeans, cowboy boots, and spurs on.  Well maybe not the spurs, but it is kind of western populated place.  Thus I thought that jeans would be much more appropriate to the venue.  Jules thought about it, and it was jeans for the both of us!

Off we went to Cattlemens.  While there, and stuffing ourselves silly with the endless salad and bread basket, in addition to our sumptuous steak and filling potatoes, I decided that they should change the name of the restaurant to "stuff-yourselves."  We eventually rolled ourselves out, went home and vegged out on the couch watching stupid TV for the rest of the night as we slowly digested our mega meal!

Love you!

Love yourself!

Love eating beef!

Friday, October 14, 2016

Black & White Tunic

Belt - ???? - Similar
Shoes - Flojo - Similar

I can never remember who makes the belt that I own!!  I always feel bad when I take these photos and I can name the manufacturer of everything that I am wearing except for my belts!  It is a bit funny.  I used to be an obsessive tag remover, but for the last few years I have stopped.  I have this vague notion that maybe when I tire of the clothes that I have, maybe I will go to a 2nd hand store and try and resell them.  But, if they have no tags, then they generally aren't interested.  With belts though, there are no tags to remove.  Once I clip the price tag off, the manufacturers name goes with it.  Hmm.... maybe this should be a shout-out to belt makers, put your name on them in some hidden, non-removable way!  Ha!  Maybe I'm just bonkers!

I wore this outfit while Jules and I went and got our nails done before heading off to Sparkle this past weekend.  Yeah, I am terribly behind on my outfit posts.  I'll tell ya, I am just so darn overwhelmed lately I can barely keep up with everything that I actually want to get done.  I know, I frequently complain here about a vast lack of time, but it is SO true!!  I suppose I just keep myself super busy to ward off the evil voices in my head, and a second, HA!!

Anywho.... Have I mentioned to you before how nice it is to wear blue jeans to get my toes done?  No?  Well, I love it.  Why?  Well often when I get my toes done I wear a skirt.  Then they very politely, and appropriately give me a little towel to wear over my knees.  It works, but it isn't very comfortable.  But a nice pair of stretchy jeans that I can just pull up, ahh, super comfortable.  It wouldn't seem like it, but it is.  Well to me at least, and a third, HA!

Okay.  That is about it for this lovely Friday folks!  This weekend, I need to go fit in, fixing up my duck decoys, shooting practice, continuing to remodel my kitchen, hopefully dress up nice and cute and go out for a steak dinner, oh and work on all of my other side projects, oh and clean my garage, oh and re-stuff insulation into my ceiling.......... oh and yeah I've got to finish my article for Already Pretty....... aaaaaaahhhhhhhhhh............... I think I'm going to POP!!!

Love you!

Love yourself!

Stay Busy!!  

Monday, October 10, 2016

Dancing Queens!

Jules and I dressed and ready to go attend our first Sparkle event.  If you don't know, Sparkle is a TG ball put on by the River City Gems of Sacramento.  I was a little bit unsure of how the evening was going to go.  Generally speaking, while I have nothing against TG events, I do not attend them.  I am more of an everyday transgender person.  Meaning, I tend to get dressed up and go to everyday places, like the movies, a museum, shopping, Costco, etc.

Oftentimes, from what I have heard, TG events attract folk who don't get everyday opportunities to dress however they would like.  So... hanging out in a hotel conference room, void of windows, with a bunch of people I don't really know, is not always something that piques my interest.  But this year, a friend contacted me and asked if Jules and I would go.  I checked the calendar, and being as it was open, Jules and I decided to be adventurous and head on up to Sacramento for the weekend.

So.... how was it???  It was fine.  Pretty much what I had pictured.  But.... I had a great time.  The venue was okay.  The food was okay.  The entertainment, a comedian, was okay.  But the people were great!  Now, if I had not known anybody prior to going, it might have been a bit different.  As it was, I sat a table where I knew most of the people already, and there were several others I knew at other tables as well.  Due to my continued participation at I had interacted with several people there and finally got to meet them in person, which was super nice!

But the best part of the evening was due to my fabulous wife and her dancing queen spirit!!  Prior to the event, earlier in the day, she and I had a good talk about my VAST insecurities with dancing.  What I kind of discovered is that I have always felt insecure in my dancing as I have always wanted to emulate the females I was watching.  But in doing so I was always looked at as weird, because you know guys don't dance that way!  Anywho... Jules and I went into the hotel room, turned on Dancing Queen and I figured out how to dance a bit more!  Now it didn't turn me into Paula Abdul or anything, but I became a bit more relaxed

Thus during the evening, after the comedian, when the DJ began spinning tunes, I went and changed into the above outfit; people were jelous of my smart choice of dancing shoes!  Jules and I then went back down to the venue and began to boogie our little butts off.  Wow, my wife certainly can dance.  Me, I danced.  I felt FAR more comfortable than I ever have dancing in the past, and I know that a large part of that was because I was finally able to dance while dressed as a girl.  Wow!  It was a quite a bit more freeing than in the past.  I actually really enjoyed myself!  Jules and I rocked that dance floor!  Our enthusiasm also pulled several of our friends out to the floor to get their groove on!

Dancing, that was bar far the best part of the evening.  Well, besides getting to hang out with my friends!

The evening wound down and a few of us went to the hotel bar and hung out for a bit, talking for a little while longer, before returning to our rooms.

Would I go again, um... yeah!

Love you!

Love yourselves!

Love Dancing!!

Wednesday, October 5, 2016

Sparkle Ball

This weekend I will be embarking upon a new adventure for me!  Exciting! Right?  What is this new adventure?  I will be attending my first ever transgender event.  This will be the Sparkle Ball for the River City Gems based in Sacramento.  And I am quite interested in seeing what all of the hub-bub is about.

I am sure that it will be pretty much as I envisioned, possibly not my sort of affair, but still I am interested to go check it out.  I have a friend up near San Francisco who contacted me and asked me if my wife and I would be attending this year.  I checked the calendar and loe and behold, it was free for the weekend and so I went and asked Jules what she thought.

Her first question was, 'do we get to buy new pretty dresses?' Umm... of course!  Of course we get to go buy new pretty dresses!  How can you go to a ball without buying new dresses?  Well, my friend, Jennifer advised me that I should check into Rent the Runway as a good option for not having to buy a dress, but still being able to wear something gorgeous.  I did go check out the options available, but after checking the prices, and the dresses available, Jules and I went and hit the outlet mall.  Of course I found something super inexpensive and ball-gown-esque!  Thus, no renting the runway this time! But thanks for the suggestion Jen!

So.... anywho.... off to the ball Jules and I will go this weekend.  If any of you who read this glorious blog of mine are attending, please come up and say hi!  I'd love to meet any of my readers!

Hope to see you there!

Love you!

Love yourselves!

Love ball gowns!!

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Monday, October 3, 2016

Scary Purple Lips

Skirt - Guess - Similar

Okay, so maybe it is not too scary, but the purple lipstick is a huge change from what I normally wear.  I received a bunch of free lipstick samples from Urban Decay and they were just sitting in my makeup case, languishing in their unused state.  Thus I started cracking them open and trying them out.  I mean, why not, right?  This purple happened to be one of the more out there colors.

I suppose that from a distance it really does not look at that scary, but up close, it sure is a super shocker.  Especially if you are just like me, and tend to get stuck wearing the same color lips over and over and over and over!  Seriously, I tend to get a new color lipstick and I just stick with it.  Maybe it is kind of boring, maybe, it is kind of safe, maybe I should branch out more?  I dunno!

I think in the above picture you can see the scariness factor a bit better than in the other shots.  Maybe it's a bit scary?  Am I just being a bit over dramatic?  Possibly!

Okay, that's it for today!

Love you!

Love yourself!

Love purple, but just not maybe on my lips!  Well, maybe!