Friday, September 25, 2015
What a Lie!
Anyone can be anything they want. Why do we tell this to our children? Why do we set them up for failure? This is SO not true. It is quite impossible to be anything you want to be. For example, what if I want to be a 6 foot tall blond bombshell with big natural curves? Yeah, that is just not going happen. Ever. No matter what I do.
Now what should we tell our children instead?
Anyone can learn anything.
But yet, that is not what we tell them. Instead we tell them lies like, oh that is okay honey, you can't do math because you don't really have a math brain. What a bunch of crap! There is no such thing as a math brain, or a science brain, or a language arts brain. Nope sorry. That is just not how brains function.
Do you know how brains function?
Given enough time, effort, energy, persistence, and dedication, anyone can learn anything!
Try it. You may like it.
Maybe if we told children this truth instead then they would understand that the difference between success and failure is the amount of drive you have. How driven are you? How driven are you to put in the time, effort, energy, persistence, and dedication to learn all the little bits and pieces that fit together to form something that you can be highly proud of? Not to just fool yourself and say, it is okay, I am happy with mediocrity.
Telling folks that they should strive for happiness regardless of the outcomes is the downfall of confidence.
Confidence comes from achievements.
Achievements are the results of drive.
Drive is exemplified by how much:
that you put forth to learn and practice something that you can be proud of.
Don't be proud of simply breathing. Be proud because you accomplished something hard that took drive to achieve.
Love yourself because you are driven!