Monday, February 23, 2015
Workplace Ignorance and Acceptance!
I had an interesting discussion with my boss today.
I found myself sitting in my bosses office with my head supervisor and 2nd in charge supervisor, and I slightly dissociated from myself and heard myself say:
"Well I do consider myself to be transgender and another employee has gone to my intern and informed them that she does not "approve" of my "lifestyle" and that it is highly inappropriate to come to my workplace with my fingernails painted. I am not sure if that is appropriate to inform you of at this time but I suspect that she has misinterpreted my being transgender as me flaunting a sexual fetish at work."
Holy crap! Did I just tell my 2 supervisors that I am transgender? Yup! I did! Holy Crap!
This conversation was within a larger context of this particular employee harassing me and creating a hostile work environment. For the past few years this employee has complained about me numerous times and has had inappropriate discussions about me with fellow employees. Her arrogance finally got the better of her when she decided to discuss her feelings about me with an intern I am supervising.
She is the type of person who thinks she is a warrior for the "right" things. So she thinks people like her and appreciate her informing them of things. What she apparently does not realize is that most employees here consider her to be a cancer on the workplace. She is always negative and always complaining about something. Apparently I have been her target for about three years now.
And what did I do to deserve such treatment? Why the horrendous act of sending her an email politely asking her to stop talking poorly of me to our fellow employees. Apparently this upset her and put me on her radar as since then she has been behind numerous attempts to discredit me.
It has only been recently that my intern came to me and divulged to me the full extent of this particular woman's wrath. It has actually been quite disconcerting for me as some of her attempts have potentially put my employment in jeopardy.
But it was just this morning when I found out about her intolerance of my gender expression. My intern was visibly shaken and worried about informing me about it. But it came as no great surprise to hear that this woman was attempting to discredit me by criticizing my gender expression.
So what is the end result? I dunno! I informed my supervisor. I filed an official complaint. My allegations are being investigated. Do to the nature of my employment, I most likely will never be informed as to the results of the investigation.
Honestly I really don't care, I just want her to leave me alone. I just want to be able to be me and do my job.
Though I can't say it doesn't bother me.
But on the other hand, I told my boss! And do you know what, he was totally cool! So does that mean I am out at work now as well? Possibly!
I told my wife what happened that I told my boss that I am transgender and her response was "well yeah, what is the big deal, it's not like you hide it!." Love my wife! So nonchalant!
Take that world!