Blogging is weird. I like it, but it is weird. I often wonder: Who am I writing this blog for, the reader, or the writer? I suppose the reality is a little bit of both.
If I was purely writing this blog for the readers then maybe I would not write some of the things that I do. I would probably stick to non-controversial subjects. Funny. Being a cross dresser is controversial in and of itself. Not that I think it is, but many in the public appear to.
Recently I wrote a post about not being a Halloween costume. After that post the number of visitors to my blog dropped in half. A bit of investigation revealed the cause of both my up and down. A very popular blogger had included me on their reading list. But after the controversial post, they removed me from their personal reading list.
That particular blogger had posted up about their Halloween adventures in fem and clearly had taken offense at my opinion. This really made me think, why am I blogging? Am I blogging to please the public, or at least a segment of the public, or am I blogging for myself? Do I care about numbers of visitors more, or being true to myself?
The answer is, I care more about being true to myself. I care about my readers, in fact I am amazed that anyone reads the drivel that I spew. But I will not compromise my beliefs to increase a page count. What beliefs are those? The one that says, there is nothing wrong with voicing an opinion.
I voiced an opinion, that personally, for me, I choose to not dress as a woman on Halloween. I am sorry that is so upsetting for some of you. But in voicing my opinion on this topic, I never said that I don't think you should dress. I simply said, that I would not do that.
If by voicing my opinion you choose to not read my blog anymore, that is your choice. But instead of getting upset and leaving, I really wish you would voice your opinions on the topic, whatever it may be. Begin a dialogue. Talk. Voice your opinion.
All too often, throughout my life, my opinions have proven to be controversial. Generally what has happened is that I voice an opinion and instead of someone giving me an opposing viewpoint to consider, they have gotten upset. If they say anything, they tell me that I have upset them. That is not voicing an opinion about the topic at hand, it is voicing an opinion on a new topic; that I should not speak up about how I see the world.
Well for you constant readers of my blog, please understand, while I know my opinions are controversial on occasion, the thing I love the most is a good dialogue. And good dialogues often come from opposing viewpoints.
So, if you ever disagree with me, be brave and tell me your opinion. I would love to hear it!
Speak up for yourself.
It is important!
- Oh and yeah as a footnote to this conversation, some of you might be surprised at the number of cross dressing bloggers I have reached out to and attempted to make some sort of network with, but they are not interested in any sort of cross promotion with me. Which I find to be funny. I think we need to stick together, even if we disagree with each other's views. Far more often than not, CDing bloggers don't want to have anything to do with me. We should not be so divided, if we can't support each other, can we honestly expect any support from the general public?