Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Apparently If You Are A Real Woman, You Are Not Free To Make A Choice

I was perusing one of my favorite blogs, Already Pretty, and happened upon one of Sal's newest bloggers, coincidentally name Nadine.  She wrote a great post about pubic hair preferences.  It is an interesting read.  Within the post she states that initially she was reluctant to remove her pubic hair, but for her own reasons she decided to get a Brazilian.  After doing so, she discovered that she liked it.  She ends her post by stating"  If I could wave my magic wand and make this The World According To Nadine, personal grooming would not be motivated by shame, mandated by popularity, or seen as an act of definace. It would mostly be about our personal tastes and what works for each individual person. "

I thought that her post was well thought out, and well written, and she expressed her opinion on the topic quite well.  I saw nothing wrong in her post.  I read about a woman that interacted with her world, questioned it, rebuffed it, rethought it, and then discovered she actually liked it.  Where things took a strange turn was in the comments.

There are currently 77 comments on the post.  Some of the comments are in support of removing pubic hair and some of the comments are not.  Which, as I see it, is not the point of the post.  I think the point of the post is that, if you like your pubic hair, keep it, and if you don't like it, remove it, but most of all, do what you want to with your pubic hair.  You are free to make the choice to remove it or keep it.

But many of the comments are on a different topic entirely.  It is as if they are responding to a post titled "Men oppress us by making us hate our bodies and forcing us to do unnatural things to it so that we more closely resemble adolescent girls."

One lady commented "No matter how many times we say “it’s a woman’s choice!” it is not a choice made without societal pressure…so not really a choice as much as a compromise we make with the patriarchy." This comment pretty much sums up my concerns about this.

Apparently, according to some women, women are not free to make a choice about removing their own pubic hair, because some men prefer for women to remove it.  I think it is this type of mentality that harms women far more than anything that men do.

Women telling other women that they are not free to make a choice based on their own personal preferences is just wrong.  I am of the thought that each of us should be free to do what we want to do to our own bodies.  If you do something to yourself just because a man tells you to, that is not right, but if you don't do something just because a women tells you not to, isn't that the exact same oppression?

Who owns you?  Prove it.  Do to you what you want, because you want, not because of what someone else wants.

Love you.

RIP Leonardo - we will miss you.
“The flame that burns twice as bright burns half as long.”


  1. We should all have to freedom to present as we choose but we are not quite there yet. As a CD I like to keep my arms, legs and face totally hair free. My wife likes my arms, legs and face to be smooth and hair free.
    I tend to be in agreement with the points you raise in this post.

    1. We should all have that freedom. Jules always stresses about how she will cut her hair and if I will like it. I always tell her she can do whatever she wants. In fact once upon a time she shaved it all off and I thought she looked just as beautiful as always. I should specify that it was the hair on her head.

  2. With me I seem to have a totally different mind set when I get dressed, depending on whether it is en homme or en femme.

    Dressing as a guy is a two minute deal. Often I grab the first shirt or suit or pair of slacks hanging in the closet or the item on top in a drawer.

    Dressing en femme is an entirely different deal. I will pull items and put them down over and over again. The outfit must work for me and be proper for the intended outing. Then It has to work with my undergarments, hose, shoes, makeup, wig, etc. It is a major and time consuming proposition. I think that only a cross dresser can understand the dressing rituals and requirements of women.

  3. The argument presented by the responder to the blog post you referred to makes a crazy assumption, in my opinion. I shave what I want when I want regardless of anyone else's thoughts. Sometimes I want smooth arms, or legs, or armpits, or pussy. Everyone decides for themselves what they want and if they allow anything outside of themselves to make that decision for them, then that is their issue, not any outside influence.